Attachment-focused therapy

Our early attachments in life serve as the blueprint for how we relate to others and how safe we feel in closeness with others later in life. Attachment-focused therapy understands these different ways of relating as normal adaptations to experiences where safe attachment was not an option. Attachment-focused therapy allows us to deepen our understanding of how we show up in relationships based on where we have been, and how we’d like to experience relationships differently in the future. While relationships can be the source of wounding and pain, they can also be an environment in which we heal and repair. With a pace that is attuned to your needs, we will get to know the parts of you that perhaps haven’t received what they needed in relationships, and begin working towards more secure attachment experiences.

Session structure

This work is deeply attuned to your nervous system and needs in relationship (both with self and others). There is no right way. Some folks dive right into relational history, while others enjoy testing the waters before diving in. Attachment work is exploratory. We will practice curiosity around what helps you feel safer in relation to others. As sessions progress, we will identify attachment-based exercises and practices that are most beneficial to you.

Therapeutic relationship

The quality of the relationship between the therapist and client is an integral part of Attachment-focused therapy. This process begins with the co-construction of a safe container, which the therapeutic relationship provides the foundation for. Once this safer space is established, deeper relational work can be explored. I also offer clients the opportunity to develop a relationship with nature as a co-therapist and safe base if this suits your needs.

My approach to Attachment-focused and Relational Therapy

Instead of asking, “what’s wrong with you?” attachment-focused therapy asks, “what happened to you?” My goal is to echo this, holding unconditional support and understanding for whatever arises during session. It is an honor to walk alongside you as you deepen your sense of safety both with your self and others, and ultimately move towards more secure ways of relating.